Decisions, Decisions

I never knew it would be so hard to pick a country for our child to come from. I thought we had picked China until today an adoption agency called that I had inquired about. They perform adoptions from Poland. We are very interested in Poland because my great grandparents came from Prussia (Polish Russia). This is a country that I was greatly considering early on because of my heritage but was having trouble finding an agency that did Polish adoptions. I found out that this is because only 3 agencies in the US do these adoptions. After further research, I have found that the stay in Poland is really long or to be broken down into 2-3 trips because they require a bonding time before you take your child home. That sounds great in theory but I don't think I could be away from Ethan that long! I have never even spent a night away from him. We would probably have to take him with us....But wow would that be a looooooooooooong flight with a 3-4 year old and then 2 kids on the way home! I just don't know .......... so stressful just picking out a country. HELP